Free Advice On How To Stop Your Child Being Bullied

Free advice on how to stop your child being bullied

 

Bullies don't happen to randomly pick a child; they select one and the selection process for a bully deciding to choose a youngster, your child, as a victim is simple.  Based on how they behave, they act, they interact and based on how they look to a bully determines whether another child is an easy target or not.

So how a person interacts with others determines the quality of your life. Listen, you're never, not communicating to others how to treat you.  The social anthropologist Edward T. Hall claims that 60 percent of all communication is nonverbal and that only 7 percent of communication is the words we choose.  The rest is our tone and body language.

So the real way you communicate with the world around you is through your body language.  Body language represents roughly 60% of the communication experience.  Just how a student is taught to handle themselves physically sends off an entirely different message to everyone.

Parents, I can walk into a classroom and in a matter of moments I can tell you who is and who isn't a bully.  I can tell you who does well in school and who doesn't.  Understand that our bodies speak so loudly people can't hear a word we're saying.

By improving your child's handle on his physical body and changing their body language it allows a child to become a more powerful communicator by being not just more disciplined but perhaps demonstrative in how they express themselves physically.   This makes their life easier, them stronger and more powerful in all areas of their life.

Do you know how most children learn a language?  Most children simply emulate and follow examples that are given to them through the media and television, movies, how the neighbours talk, what their mum says and unfortunately in many cases that's not going to serve a youngster in every social situation.

So for example, if a child thinks that the words he uses have to be 'hip' that's going to make a different impression than the child who realises that the words they use are designed to communicate specific ideas.

Today there are so many non-words used.  I'm sure you've heard children today use words like "dude", "cool", and “what’s up" - all of which mean nothing.

In our Martial Arts experience we actually use a discipline regiment of verbal etiquette for how we interact with each other that gives our students a great model to copy in terms of words, language and communication.

Teaching voice emulation is important.  For example, when a child sees in a class experience how I am commanding the attention of the class by how and what I say to the students, they'll want to copy that.  Why is this so important you ask?  The danger is that most children don't see a great example and are copying the likes of actors and rap stars.  Children are acting, sounding even imitating people such as Eminem and 50 Cent and that's not good.

As a child emulates my example as far as how I physically position myself, how I interact, how I maintain eye contact, how I graciously shake hands they copy that and as a result, they are in fact perceived differently in all areas of their own life.

Proper Martial Arts training changes everything in terms of how a youngster is perceived.

Think  About This...

You know, we talk about the idea of you wanting your child to be more self-assured and more confident in having gained the ability to make better decisions.  We all want to have children who are more health-minded, more safety-minded and able to make sound decisions.

Well, how do you accomplish that with your child?

Just by enrolling a child in our Maarlisk programme you actually solidify the idea within that child's mind’s eye that the parent -you- actually believes they can do this.

This is very important to understand.  By enrolling the child in a Martial Arts programme you are telling the child, "John, you're going to do well at this."

There is a catch ...in order to use Martial Arts as a vehicle to improve all areas of your child's life you have to recognize that the programme only works as well as that programme is supported.  See, as I mentioned earlier, there are 168 hours in a week.  My job is to train your child for two of those hours. Your job is to compliment our training the other 166 hours by encouraging your youngster, by reminding him of the lessons that they learned in class, by reiterating to them that a future black belt isn't someone who waits until the last minute to do what they are told.  A future black belt is somebody that says yes miss, yes sir the first time they're asked to do something.

So by providing a Martial Arts experience for your child you're able to compliment what the instructor has done on the academies practice floor during the rest of the week will actually help increase the impact of the programme.

Not all Martial Arts academies are equal. The difference between one Martial Arts academy and another is not what they teach. They all teach Martial Arts. The difference is how they teach it.  Whatever an instructor decides to teach is what they teach, I call that the content and all Martial Arts content is similar.

Now we know there are many different systems of Martial Arts out there. However, it all boils down to one thing: how you teach what you teach.  That's called the context and I want you to realise that although all schools may be equal as far as their knowledge and their ability to appreciate what content they would like to deliver, they are unequal in their ability to actually teach the material and that's the context.

Unfortunately, most Martial Arts instructors worldwide are enamoured with themselves and copy the latest craze or fad in the Martial Arts industry, which has nothing to do with the real world.

For example, if you walk into a Martial Arts academy and the instructor is wearing a colourful uniform and a fad haircut and three or four earrings in their left ear like a professional football player, he's not a leader-he's a follower.  He's emulating someone.

If I walk into my academy with a shaved head, within a week four or five children also will have shaved their head.

Why?  I am a leader.  The children are going to copy my example.  That's why I make sure that my example is one that a parent is impressed by.

IMPORTANT POINT: The instructor's job is not to be the student's friend.  My job is to train students in the Martial Arts, not entertain them with silly games and a casual atmosphere.  The instructor's job is not to be personal with the student and their parents.  The instructor's job is to be friendly but not their friend. It is the obligation of a professional instructor to provide an example to emulate.  In order to do that you have to project a level of accomplishment above and beyond what the average person has accomplished in their life.

So, to provide a good Martial Arts experience that anyone, a child, an adult, can use to gain a higher degree of accomplishment, the first thing that you have to look for is how professional does this academy and the instructor look.